“We are told to let our light shine, and if it does, we won’t need to tell anybody it does. Lighthouses don’t fire cannons to call attention to their shining – they just shine.” Dwight L. Moody.
Contrary to belief, I don’t think the greatest way to make yourself seen in a crowd is to be loud. In fact, I think it is almost the opposite. If you want to be remembered fondly I believe you need to have high levels of magnetism.
Magnetism is that energy that some people seem to emit that makes you want to be near them. They are fascinating and warm. Often times they seem to have a glow about them or perhaps their eyes appear to sparkle. Typically they are bright and smile a lot, but it’s often hard to identify the other things that set them apart.
I bet you know at least one person who just seems to radiate this sort of light. They are those people who just shine.
I was lucky enough to attend a Workshop with a few hundred people in Chicago last week. After sitting through 2 full days of seminars I made some truly meaningful connections with people who had just a day before been strangers. On the flight back home I began to think about those I had remembered from the large group, or who I had really connected with, and what they had in common.
As I sat with these thoughts it became clear to me that these magnetic people tend to have a few things they do naturally that seem to make people want to flock towards them like a moth does to a flame.
Here are 4 things people with warm personalities do, which we can all do, to help us stand out and shine brightly in this world.
1. They truly listen
When they are being spoken to, they truly listen. They concentrate on nothing more than the person in front of them. Their attention is undivided. We all have a deep need and desire to be truly seen, and a warm and magnetic person ensures we feel that way.
2. They hold themselves confidently
There is a difference between arrogance and having high levels of self-worth. The people who tend to attract others typically exert a level of self-assuredness. If they have a question, they will be willing to ask it. If there is someone they want to talk to, they will have the confidence to make the first approach. They are not afraid of being seen or heard. They hold themselves with a sense of worthiness that can almost be felt in their presence.
3. They are gracious and kind
Those who are magnetic are generous with their information and appear to truly believe that the collective is more important than just their own individual success. Rather than being protective, they tend to be open and giving in nature. They are also generous with their compliments and truly notice the traits and beauty in others.
4. They talk about others more than themselves
Rather than need to impress you, they have a deep desire to see you. Rather than show off with their accomplishments, they would rather hear about yours. People who are magnetic often encourage others to do most of the talking. They almost have an inquisitive nature that wants to delve deeply into the heart of each human they meet and that comes through with the way they interact with the world.
Warm and instantly magnetic people often do these things without even thinking about them, but we all have the ability to make these simple things part of our everyday behavior if we can be more aware of their power. We all have the ability to really shine our light and become someone who is remembered long after the interaction for all the right reasons.
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Hi. I’m Kate Snowise. I’m a Life Coach & host of the Here to Thrive Podcast. I help people get clear on what they want, need and crave, and then helps them take the steps to move towards that.
I believe life is about more than surviving and being good enough. Each of us truly has the ability to thrive and live a beautiful, aligned life where we remember and connect with our authentic selves. I have an MSc in Psychology (the positive kind that concentrates on what is right with you). To read more about my signature coaching program The Thriving Life Project click here.
