It’s touched on by pretty much all self-help gurus and many spiritual teachers. Brené Brown, Tony Robbins and Gabrielle Bernstein immediately come to mind. They come at it from different angles, but they share a message. They all point to a fear that we all experience in some way and at some time. Put simply, it is the fear that we are not enough.
This fear that we are not enough usually takes on specific forms. It might be that we believe deep down that we are not good enough, smart enough, brave enough or pretty enough. But this universal fear is all pointing at the same thing, and it’s the ultimate human worry: that we are not worthy or deserving of love. We are humans, and we crave love.
To truly succeed in life, and feel authentically fulfilled, we have to figure out how to be enough.
This takes on different forms for different people. Some might find their fulfilment through pursuing business goals. Others seek to find it in their personal relationships. As I mention regularly enough, my belief is that the only place you can find that true sense of worthiness is from inside of you. If the sense of knowing you are enough comes from your heart, you stop seeking approval from the outside world.
So what stops us from accepting deep down in our core that we are truly enough? Over the years we have generally built up so many of layers of stories and beliefs that limit us. I like to think of it as an analogy: all of the times we believe that we are not enough in some way are like bricks we put in a wall. That wall needs to be deconstructed in order for us to see our inherent worthiness or our heart. We cover up our true sense of worthiness with the stories we tell ourselves. We have to undo our conditioning, and rewrite our limiting beliefs in order to unveil the light at the center of our being. We need to come back to ourselves, and push away the voice of the world that we have accepted as our own voice.
We look for excuses because it is easier than deconstructing our walls. We blame others, society, our circumstance, because it is easier than facing our fears and rewriting our stories. We move forward in our lives unconsciously because we have lost sight of our power to change things.
The process of uncovering your worthiness and reconnecting with your heart truly only takes a moment. Once you have become aware of your inherent fear, and can recognize some of the layers of stories you have told yourself about why you are not enough, you have the ability to start rewriting them. You are that much closer to deconstructing the wall of stories and limiting beliefs that hold you back from embracing the fact that you are absolutely enough.
Hi. I’m Kate Snowise, and Thrive.How is my business-baby. I’m a Life & Well-Being coach who helps people break down their walls of limiting beliefs. I have an MSc in Psychology (the happy kind of psychology that concentrates on what is right with you). I offer individual coaching that specifically helps people clarify their thinking, reconnect with their spirits, grow into their potential and regain balance. Click here to learn more.
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